If you are in the middle of a divorce at this time of the year, no doubt you have felt stressed at some point or another. After all, Valentine's Day and a divorce are two big events on their own. But when they happen at the same time? You have to deal with the potential for emotional turmoil as you see marketing messages and friend's social media posts espousing love.
During a divorce, you may feel downright overwhelmed. Fortunately, there are a few strategies that you can use to cope during this complicated time. Below, we have compiled a list of four tips for you to follow.
- Protect the emotional wellbeing your children
Divorce can be a confusing and hurtful process for children. Perhaps the best thing that you can do for your children is to prioritize their emotional wellbeing. Try to keep any conflicts between you and your spouse; there is no need to get your kids involved. Take care of the practical details like scheduling so that your kids will not have to think about it. And talk to the children about divorce in a way that is honest, compassionate and age-appropriate.
- Create new traditions
Your social life may look very different this year than in the past. This may feel a little bit sad, but it is also a chance to find new ways of having fun. While you may wish to keep some of your traditions alive, create a few new ones as well. This is a great way to try new activities and make memories with friends and family.
- Consider your finances
Divorce can be an expensive process. Your finances may have taken a serious hit because of the divorce proceedings. Your wallet may be much thinner right now than it was at this time last year. If you haven't already, consult a financial adviser or a family law attorney. An attorney may be able to help you receive a fair divorce settlement, collect alimony payments and protect your personal finances.
The focus of love during Valentine's Day can be a reminder that your emotional well-being is important during a trying time like divorce. There's more to it than than seeing red.